Tips for starting over after divorce

There are several strategies divorcees can use to make changes in their post-divorce life and thrive moving forward.

Many people in Maryland feel like after they get a divorce, they are starting a new life entirely. While this can be scary, post-divorce life can be just as exciting and fulfilling. Here are some tips for making the transition from married to divorced a positive experience.

Allow time to mourn

Even if the divorce was a mutual, beneficial decision, many divorcees experience feelings of loss after they finalize the paperwork and take steps to move on. Additionally, regardless of what the marriage and divorce experience was like, many divorcees still experience feelings of grief.

Following the divorce, and for several months afterwards, divorcees should give themselves time to mourn and work through their feelings. While divorcees should not dwell on these feelings, they should make room to accept them in their life for the time being.

Begin to let go

Those who recently went through a divorce should also find a way to work through the emotional baggage from their prior relationship, so they do not bring it with them as they embark on a new life. For some people, this means focusing on a new and enjoyable activity while for others, it means sitting down with a therapist regularly to work through their feelings.

Try new things

Those who were married for many years often forget who they were and what they used to enjoy in their single days. Divorcees should use the end of their marriage as a way to rediscover who they used to be and consider making some changes. For example, those who recently went through a divorce may want to try something as minor as getting a new hairstyle to as major as moving to a new city.

Embrace new responsibilities

In many marriages, one partner manages certain responsibilities while the other takes care of different tasks. Following the divorce, many divorcees find that they have to take on new roles, such as going back to work, taking care of the laundry or dealing with finances. Divorcees should embrace these new roles, seek help as they accomplish new tasks and remember that mistakes are simply learning experiences.

Seek legal help before the divorce

Before moving forward with the formal divorce process, many divorcees in Maryland may wonder how to make the process as streamlined as possible, so they can easily move on after their divorce is finalized. In this situation, those planning on getting a divorce should reach out to an attorney for legal assistance.