Years ago, custody arrangements between divorced couples pretty much looked alike from one family to the next. The divorced mom had primary custody (and all the headaches of raising children mostly alone). The divorced dad was relegated to seeing his kids only on a couple weeknights a month and alternate weekends and usually felt (rightfully) estranged from their daily lives.
No matter how hard you try, it isn't always possible to avoid a custody battle. If your spouse is determined to fight, there's nothing you can do to prevent it.
Having to live life under a child custody arrangement is not only difficult for you as the parent but also for your children. The arrangement could benefit both parents, but wind up hurting you more than the other parent. It all depends on how the exchange of custody is handled each time by both parents. Today, we will take a look at how to make the exchange of child custody safe for all parties involved.
No one has ever said that being a parent is easy. When your child is a baby and a toddler, you have to watch your little one 24-hours a day like a doting mother hen to ensure that he or she is safe and out of danger. That's in addition to the tremendous amount of time spent on other tasks, e.g., cleaning, bathing and changing diapers.
Most newly-wed spouses never believe that they're going to get a divorce. However, not all marriages end in "happily ever after." If you're in a marriage that has an expiration date like this, and you also have children, you will need to carefully plan your divorce in a way that minimizes the potential for emotional wounds, disagreements and difficulties during the process. You will also want to create a parenting plan that seeks to reduce the chances of parental disagreements later down the road.
As difficult as it is to believe, parents sometimes kidnap their own children, take them to foreign countries and refuse to bring them back to their rightful home in violation of child custody orders. Although the chances of this happening to you are probably slim, if the other parent of your child is a foreign national, it's definitely in the realm of possibility. As such, you may want to add some extra protections and security against the threat and potential of a child abduction by including special language within your parenting agreement.
There are a variety of reasons why you might want to terminate the parental rights of the other parent of your child -- especially if he or she is a deadbeat. Maybe you want to move to another state for a job opportunity or a better life, but the other parent won't give permission. Maybe you want your new husband or wife to adopt your child and the other parent protests. Finally, maybe you want to protect your children from a potentially dangerous mother or father.
Good communication is vital after two parents with shared custody go through a divorce. For this reason, parents should specify certain agreements about communication in their parenting plans. Here are some important issues to address in this regard:
When two parents live so far away from each other that it renders child custody visits impossible. If the parents live on opposite sides of the country, one way around this problem could involve using holidays and three-day weekends as times when the children can visit with the noncustodial parent. Many parents organize long-distance holiday schedules in circumstances like this.
Before addressing the topic of losing child custody, there's something you should know. Even in extreme situations, you'll likely have the right to -- at the very least -- visit with your children in a supervised setting with a court-approved person present to watch over the visit. That is, if you have consistently shown interest in visiting with them and if you have consistently supported your children emotionally and financially. With that being said, here are a few circumstances that could cause you to lose your child custody and/or visitation rights: