Telling your spouse you want a divorce can be challenging. Your marriage might have issues, but chances are they are not expecting a dissolution, or they also acknowledge the marriage has ended but are avoiding initiating the conversation. Thus, you should be careful about how you approach this matter because it is likely an even more sensitive topic for them then it is for you at this exact moment.
Here are three tips to help you navigate this discussion as successfully as possible.
Be sure that you want a divorce
It’s crucial to be sure you want a divorce before talking to your spouse. Changing your mind after a divorce conversation can take a toll on your marriage. Take time to determine whether you and your spouse can solve your differences or if the marriage has ended. When you are certain you want to dissolve the marriage, you can initiate the talk.
Pick the right time and place
Timing matters when it comes to divorce conversations. While a perfect time may not exist, you don’t want to have the conversation when your spouse is leaving for work, in the middle of an argument or just before bedtime. Consider talking to them on the weekend, as both of you have adequate time to convey your thoughts. If you have kids, you can take them to a relative or friend.
If you believe your spouse may have an angry outburst, you may benefit from having the conversation in public in a private setting. You should show compassion to help your spouse process their pain. And if possible, give them time before returning home.
Talking to your spouse is the first step of the divorce process. Get legal guidance to understand the succeeding ones to make informed decisions that will safeguard your rights and interests.